No matter the form of documentation, always keep your proof safe and secure by hiding it or sending it to someone you trust. *Make sure to check your state’s recording laws before you present the proof in court Proof can also be useful when taking legal action* against the abuser. Recovering from gaslighting that you experienced, for weeks, months, even years, can be difficult to do seeing proof that it happened, validates your experience, challenges the effects of your partner’s abuse, and can help you determine reality. Why do you need this proof? First and foremost, evidence of what occurred can help with your mental health.

Email - Send your experience, voice memos, pictures, or videos to a trusted friend or family member for safekeeping.

If your phone isn’t a secret, you can buy a cheap disposable camera at discount stores, and hide the film from your partner. The pictures will have a date and time on them in your photo gallery.

Take pictures - If the abuser doesn’t have access to your phone, take pictures of what happened to you, your child, your pet, or your stuff.

If your phone isn’t a secret, tape recorders will still record sounds, and you can hide those tapes away.

Keep voice memos - If the abusive partner doesn’t have access to your phone, escape to a room by yourself and record yourself speaking with your phone on what just happened.Speak to a trusted friend or family member - If you have a trusted friend or family member, telling them what happened or talking out what happened can help you clear your head, and someone else will know what is going on.Write down the date, time, and what happened. Keep a journal - Every time you encounter something, write it down in a secret journal your partner doesn’t know about.Here are some examples of what proof you can document:

Since gaslighting can make it difficult to feel like you truly remember what happened, it can be helpful to keep proof of the incident(s) so you can rely more on the evidence. Here are a few ways to combat gaslighting: Proof

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